What does this have to do with a website about learning Spanish?  Well, learning Spanish has everything to do with dating if you want to do it right!

Everything you’ve heard about Latin lovers may just be true. People in this part of the world are soulful, passionate individuals who love to be in love, so rest assured that things will never get stale. But depending on what your threshold for excitement is, you might find their feistiness and forwardness to be a lot to handle. Couple that with the pervasiveness of staunchly traditional attitudes towards gender roles and you may find your cross-cultural romance far more challenging than you can take. However, shutting yourself off to finding love due to cultural differences would certainly be a shame. What we’re really saying is, don’t knock dating in Latin America until you’ve tried it. The key, as with many things, is to mentally prepare.

Were you flirting?

We’ve talked before about how casual Latin Americans can be when it comes to affectionate gestures. Colleagues and business associates are not shy when it comes to doling out hugs and cheek kisses before a round of negotiation. So you can imagine that they are quite a bit more effusive outside the office, especially when it comes to a night out. Latinos love to dance and flirt, so you won’t be left alone to nurse your drink at the bar. You’ll be pulled straight to the dance floor, where things can get very heated. In any other context, this could be taken as a clear expression of interest. In this one, not

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so much. Your dance partner or new friend could simply be trying to show you a good time or make you feel at home, not end up spending the night with you. So the next time you think you feel sparks fly, just keep in mind that the man with his arm around your waist may have exchanged a few casual kisses with his work colleagues earlier in the day.

On the other hand, when you truly have snagged an attractive stranger, it’s a wise idea not to be overly demonstrative yourself. Latin Americans are liberal with chaste expressions of love, not necessarily a cheeky butt grab or hot and heavy make-out session in full view of everyone else. In public, be nothing less than a consummate gentleman or lady and keep anything too heated to the bedroom.

Wait, you won’t what?

Despite all this, you might have gotten lucky. Now that you’ve managed to get someone to come home with you, you’re probably gearing up for a night of passion. Except that when you’re just about to commence, you run into an unexpected hiccough: your partner won’t use a condom. Yes, this is bound to be quite a bid of a problem if you’re into casual flings. You’re in a very conservative part of the world, where Catholicism reigns supreme despite attitudes becoming more liberal in the past few years. Even so you’ll find that there are still many of its god-fearing denizens who shy away from using any kind of contraceptive or birth control. So if you’re commitment-shy and fairly laissez-faire about protection, this really isn’t the environment for you.

Tradition, tradition

Traditional gender roles are well and alive here. This means that that handsome stranger you met last night will be holding doors open, footing the bill and generally doing his best to be Prince Charming. That sultry beauty whom you asked out for dinner just this

morning will be the very picture of femininity, letting you take the lead in most affairs. If you err on the conservative side yourself, you might find all this utterly charming. If not, you’re clean out of luck. And expect both genders to be very adamant about keeping things exactly the way they are. Your Latin American boyfriend will expect you to take a backseat in decisions and cheer him from the sidelines while your girlfriend will very much be expecting you to provide for her and court her like they did her abuela back in the day.

Our Advice

Figure out what you can live with and what you can’t. Perhaps you can tolerate a bit of masculine posturing, but can’t take the possessiveness that is a part of machismo culture. This will usually manifest in countless calls, voicemails and text messages demanding to know where you are, even early into your relationship. Or perhaps you can handle making the decisions for both of you but aren’t a fan of how she expects you to foot the bill. Catch the signs early on and bow out if it gets too much. You aren’t required to compromise yourself for the sake of a little cultural exposure.

La Familia

 Perhaps you’ve surmounted the obvious obstacles and are well on the way to something serious with your novio/a. Then it’s about high time you met the parents. As we’ve said in other articles, family values are everything to your average Latin American. It’s a highly communal culture where people share everything they have and are intimately involved in each other’s business. You’ll find this is especially the case in parent-child relationships, where a fully-grown adult might still be living at home and deferring to his mother’s judgment on everything from shoe size to the stock exchange. This is especially the case with women and girls, who are very much protected until a suitable young gentleman makes her his. It’s pretty much a given that parents will be a huge factor in any relationship with a Latino and you’d do well to make a favourable impression.

This brand of extreme filial loyalty is not always a horrible thing, of course. In fact, it may be one of the things you love best about your significant other, especially when you both start a family yourself. You’ll know that the man or woman you’ve married knows how to put your new family above everything else. You’ll also know that that unwavering respect for elders is likely to be passed down to your kids as well. So resist the immediate impulse to call anyone a mama’s boy too soon. He just might become the one that got away.


OLDER WOMEN DATING YOUNGER MEN · February 11, 2017 at 7:37 am

Very helpful and Great information,
we appreciate advise especially coming from a professional.
Thanks again and keep up the great work!

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